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2020: Thrive

I don’t remember exactly when I stopped making ‘New Year’s Resolutions’ and started choosing a word for the year and making goals, but it’s something I’ve found helpful to combat the ‘new year, new you’ push that seems to happen in the universe every turn of the calendar year. Having a leading word– even when I forget about it sometimes- gives me a good reminder to focus on myself and my goals.

I chose THRIVE for 2020 because its very definition inspires me- “to grow vigorously; to gain in wealth or possessions; to progress toward or realize a goal despite or because of circumstances.”

I want to thrive as a mom, partner, friend, and all the other roles that define me, but also to push myself to actually make steps to the next thing in life.

I talk ALL THE TIME about wanting a new job, doing something different, but it’s a lot of talk. I spent time and money with career coaches and online courses to try to get some sort of answer, but the only person who has the answer is me. Giving birth and becoming a parent is the scariest thing I have ever done and I survived/am surviving it. I can do hard things and moving on from the security blanket of my job over the past 11 years is one of those things I know I must do. It enabled me to get through the past decade of life and brought amazing people, things, and opportunities in my life, but it’s time to move on.

So here’s to changes, forward movement, growing, learning, and THRIVING in 2020.

 

 

 

What a Decade!

It’s been quite the whirlwind of the last decade- I think more has happened in the last 10 years of life than any other decade before?

In 2009, I bought a house and got engaged. 2010 I was married. 2011 I was separated. 2012 I was divorced.

In 2013 I turned 30, met Q, went to Holland with my mom, and unexpectedly lost my father- most certainly one of the most defining years of my life and often the marker in time in which I often refer to when trying to figure out what year things happened in.

2014 was a tumultuous year of figuring out grief, meeting Q’s son, and getting promoted at work, while 2015 brought new joys with brother getting married, but also the low of my mother selling our childhood home. I also went to Hawaii for work and we lost Q’s grandfather ( I was in Hawaii when it happened).

In 2016, there was a lot of job turmoil for me and a lot of job interviews in places near and far, but nothing worked out for us. We traveled to California to see family. 2017 was much the same unrest at work for me with a few glimmers of almost moving on to something new that never panned out so lots of hopes and excitement dashed. It was also tough second half of 2017 as we lost Q’s brother-in-law to suicide.

We were determined to make 2018 our year- we traveled to Utah and work conditions improved for me which made a big difference. We started house projects with our eye on moving within the year or so when we found out in September 2018 that we were going to have a baby!

2019 has been a roller coaster year– Q lost his biological father in January, and while we were overjoyed at the birth of our son in May, he entered the world in dramatic fashion and it was scary for a bit. We also unexpectedly lost Q’s stepfather in the beginning of December.

 

Friday Finds October 2018

On my travel list whenever I find myself in Atlanta- a new museum dedicated to the puppetry of Jim Henson.

Speaking of the amazing creations and imaginations of Jim Henson, the original Big Bird leaves Sesame Street after 50 years. Sidenote: I played Big Bird in my 1st grade play!

The trash that came out of Yellowstone geyser that has normally been quiet- stuff from the 1930s! Weird and fascinating.

How the Smithsonian helped the FBI track down the missing ruby slippers from The Wizard of Oz.

There were never 57 varieties of Heinz Ketchup! Marketing schemes!

Duck sauce is an essential part of New England Chinese cuisine. I had no idea it was another thing that is only known in this end of the world!

Friday Finds January 2017

This is over a month old, but new theories on the capture of Anne Frank and her family.

The death of Debbie Reynolds the day after her daughter’s death broke my heart. I had no idea Reynolds played an important role in saving many pieces of Hollywood costume history too. 

I loved the TV Show My So-Called Life when I was a teenager- this oral history about the show made my month.

A history of the plus-size section in women’s clothing.

Ladies who launched space exploration. Cannot wait to see Hidden Figures!

Did you know rayon was a deadly fiber?

Remembering some of the great inaugural gowns worn by First Ladies.

 

 

 

Friday Finds December 2016

A holiday Friday Finds!

American Christmas holiday design and decoration is often inspired by two distinct periods- the Victorian era or the 1960s.

I love The Muppet Christmas Carol and have always wondered how Michael Caine felt about the movie– now I know!

The most popular toys by decade since the 1950s. Of course I had a Cabbage Patch doll!

The first department store Santa was in Brockton, MA!

 

Making gingerbread cookies is a holiday tradition in my family ( we made ours this past Sunday!) so I loved this video about the unknown history of gingerbread men cookies!

Why we eat candy canes at Christmas.

Dangerous holiday decorations of the past.

Baby, It’s Cold Outside is one of my least favorite holiday songs, particularly because it appears the dude singing spikes the girl’s drink. So a couple in Minnesota rewrote the lyrics.

Wishing you and yours all the best for the holiday season!

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Lenten Promises

Somewhat lapsed Catholic here on Ash Wednesday. I saw somewhat because there are so many tenets of the religion that I believe in wholeheartedly and yet others ( their stance on women’s roles, divorce, and abortion, to name a few) that I wholeheartedly disagree with. Pope Francis’ views and public opinions on some of these topics have given me hope during a time when I’m questioning my spiritual life, what that means to me, how I practice it, and so on.

Even though I don’t make it to church every Sunday ( I have opinions on this as well), I hold my spiritual life as an important part of who I am. I pray on a regular basis and hold many of my Catholic beliefs as important in my life, though as I’m learning and exploring about religions, I’ve come to see that so many of these tenets are more Christian beliefs than Catholic specifically.

Every year for Lent I choose to give up something and many years that thing I’m abstaining from sticks. When I was in high school I gave up soda for Lent, something that, minus a bad migraine that only a cold Coca-Cola will fix or a ginger ale to sooth a tummy ache, has stuck. I gave up Candy Crush Saga two years ago and haven’t played since ( or even been interested!). This year, I’m abstaining from pizza because it has become too much of a meal crutch for Q and I ( though we had it last night and it was DELICIOUS).

This year, in addition to no pizza, I’m also trying to follow a bit of what Pope Francis said on the topic of Lent as well. I’m going to really work on my kindness- to others, to myself, to the world around me. I want to turn my head to indifference not just because I care about people, but because I realize I could care so much more. It’s something I hope to make mindful of over the next forty days instead of being so picky about not eating meat on Fridays ( a silly man made rule, for the record). And like the soda habit I kicked many years ago, I hope being more compassionate and kind is a habit that sticks past Lent.

Christmas Tunes

While I’m not the type of person who will start listening to Christmas music well before Thanksgiving, I do enjoy Christmas tunes throughout the holiday season.

Here are a few of my favorites:

Silver Bells: I like several versions of the song, but this one by Bing Crosby is a favorite.

God Rest Ye Merry Gentlemen, Barenaked Ladies and Sarah MacLachlan version

Christmas Wrapping, The Waitresses

Caroling, Caroling, Nat King Cole

O Holy Night: Also many gorgeous versions, but Josh Groban slays it for me

Have Yourself a Merry Little Christmas: I love this song, especially the original by Judy Garland, but the Carpenters version is lovely

Christmas in Killarney, Bing Crosby

Mistletoe and Holly, Frank Sinatra

The Man with the Bag, Kay Starr

Jingle Bells, Frank Sinatra

I Want a Hippopatamus For Christmas

 

Wishing you and yours a wonderful holiday!

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Friday Finds November 2015

I hope everyone enjoyed a wonderful Thanksgiving! Here are a few fun finds from around the interwebs.

The Macy’s Thanksgiving Parade is a  huge part of my Thanksgiving traditions. One day we’ll get there as a family. But in the mean time, this article about balloon school (in Detroit not NYC) for the large balloon handlers was quite fun.

I love stuff like this: short history of white breadPyrex, and the school backpack.

I’m not sure where I found this article, but as we enter in the hustle and bustle of the holiday season, I completely cosign on the idea of keeping Christmas simple that this writer asks her grown children for. After my Dad died and we cleaned out houses and had massive yard sales, we made the decision to stop giving gifts to each other as a family. We still do gifts for Little Man, but we decided the gift of time, love, and honesty were more important than opening something random on the holiday. It’s been one of the best things we’ve ever decided as a family.

An interview with a former prison librarian. Fascinating.

Updating Richard Scarry books.

Peanuts is more than just a comic strip and holiday specials.

When I was in San Francisco in August, I finally visited the Walt Disney Family Museum in the Presidio  (highly recommend, by the way). I didn’t know a lot about the early Disney Animation days and was super surprised to learn that so many of the colorists were actually women, so have been doing some of my own research on the topic. This article about one of their more influential designers who was a woman is not new, but still interesting. Sad I missed the exhibit by a year!

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It’s Black Friday and I’m not shopping. I’m working today and the only store I may enter is the market to get some essentials for a Little Man weekend. We may decorate the house this weekend for the Christmas season, but since that involves doing some cleaning and rearranging first, we might not!

 

 

 

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